Monday, January 20, 2014

Inside the Old City of Jerusalem!

This is one of the walk ways inside the Old City of Jerusalem.  It is a pleasure to go there nowadays because of the train, you don't have to park, and you can walk in the beautiful spring weather.

Enjoy!

Rachael Alice
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Thursday, January 16, 2014

How to keep the social workers out of your life.

This is a very important post that you should take to heart.  If you already in the clutches of the social workers, then contact me and we will work together to get them out of your hair.   This happened to a client of mine, and I am writing the full information so that will not happen to you.

But now for the meat and potatoes.

First, no matter how old your children are, you have to train them to put up a barrier between the school environment and what goes on at home.  It is not the teachers business what your relationship is with your children, except that everything is fine thank you very much.  Children should talk to the teacher about school subjects, what hobbies they do, or chugim, but that's it.  Personal information and personal problems must be discussed only with the parents.  Then afterwards, you won't have any problems.

Why is this important?  Well, if the child does say things about the parents, and it is questionable, the teacher could and probably will take it the wrong way.  The social workers target children who are weak, and maybe can't express themselves in Hebrew correctly,  They take things the wrong way.

This sets up a chain reaction that goes like this:  The teacher hears something from the child that might be taken two ways, and instead of making sure what the child means, they immediately call the social workers.  This could be about how the child doesn't like the father, or mother, or a little lack of tzniut at home, or saying something in Hebrew that in English is not considered bad, but in Hebrew it turns ugly.

 The social workers write a letter to the police.  The police then wait a while, and send a Child Investigator to the school.  This person interrogates the child a few times, and then recommends that the police go to and arrest the parent.  All this is without even the parent knowing what is going on, or what the charges are. The child investigator can waltz into the school, apparently without ID or even giving their last name, interrogate, video the child all without the knowledge of the parents.  The child investigator recommends that that the parent be interrogated. The parent is taken to jail, and interrogated about the situation without being told what the situation is.  The parent cannot talk to the school, or to the other parent, or to the child to find out what happened.  The other parent is also summoned under threat of arrest to undergo interrogation.  Also not a word is said about the  original situation.  The one who is in jail, cannot sleep, and usually there are bank robbers, and murderers in the same cell.  The police treat the parent like a criminal for 6 days.  The police confiscate phone, coats all ID and money. Most of the time the parent doesn't get some things back, and is told, "so what?"

After the week of intense scrutiny, they let the parent go, with a Tzav Hirkacha - a restraining order not to go home for a certain amount of time.  This cost the family a lot of money because now they have to rent a short time rental for the parent.  After the family is back together, they are summoned to the social worker who started the whole rigamarole.

What should have happened, is the social worker should have make a phone call to the parents, and had them come in at the beginning to sort out the problem.  The police should not be involved.  If there really had been child abuse, then the social worker can take care of it after speaking to parents.  There are many other ways to handle the problem. Sending the child to a psychologist, sending the parents for help, but not using brute force and forcing the parents to undergo this type of situation.   The whole situation between the police and the parents cannot happen again.

Now the whole school of the child is talking about the situation, all the teachers think that there has been child abuse, when it all was a problem of translation between Hebrew and English. The child now hates the teachers and everyone at the school and doesn't even want go to school for fear of something else being taken the wrong way.  Even the parents don't have faith with the teachers and administration of the school.  Why go there and talk to them when they put the family under such stress?

Why did this all happen?  Because the child didn't keep the proper boundaries between school situations and home situations.  If there is really something wrong it will come out when the social worker meets the parents.

So train your children not to talk about the home at school.  It is not their business.


Rachael Alice
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Monday, January 6, 2014

On the hilltop protecting Jerusalem!

Not every one realizes that as Jerusalem grows, we are protecting more and more the land of Israel.  Each new building, each new resident helps and contributes to the economy and well being of the Land of Israel. These buildings do create facts on the ground.  We are the vanguard!

Rachael Alice

Ben Sorir and the Public Social Workers, need them or not?

When I studied at , Nishmat  now in the Pat neighborhood, We spent a lot of time studying the subject of Ben Sorir and Morir.  This perek in the Gemara talks about the son who goes and takes too much food and drink from his father and mother. He eats and drinks like a glutton in his father's domains and is disrespectful to his parents.   He is taken to the Beit Din by the parents themselves because they know that they cannot deal with the improper behavior of their child.  Then the Gemara insists that there never was such a case.  Why?  Because there are many rules that pertain to the case.  The parents have to look and sound alike.  They have to be the same height and have the same voice. The boy has to be exactly between the age of a child and an adult. he cannot be a child and he cannot be an adult.  This is a one day window that is very difficult to define. The parents have to harden their hearts against their son.  This also never happens.    Never was there a case of Ben Sorir and Morir.  Why do we study it?  So we as parents can learn from the mistakes of others in a good way, not the way the Misrad HaRevacha does.  Read on for more details!

Parents have the responsibility and the honor to bring up their children, not the government. All the authority has to rest with the parents!

The Misrad of Revacha,  משרד הרווחה (why they came up with that name I'll never know,)  I just looked it up in the online dictionary http://www.morfix.co.il/רווחה says that it is the office of Welfare, Well being and comfort!

NOT!

You should only go to the Government Social Workers when you are very poor, have no money, no children and nothing to lose.  Then they can be helpful to you and give you resources.  They are very nice to cancer patients, and the elderly.

If you have a spot of trouble with your children in school however stay away from them with all your might. They have mysterious powers and can take away your children at their own discretion. They write notes about you and your kids, that you have no access to and cannot change or even argue.  Their word is much better than yours. The only way to get away from them is to pray that they make a mistake and then you can sue them in small claims court. It will cost you a lot of money however to do this.

 To keep your kids, you need to make sure that your children go to school on time, wear clean clothes, do their homework, in short not to call attention to themselves in a bad way.  

The other thing that you must do in order to keep your kids is to train them not to talk to the school psychologists!  These people are also out to get you and your kids.  I have been in contact people that say that the school psychologists take innocent comments that children say and twist their innocent statements  to ugly and disgusting comments about how they hate their parents.  They also have the right to video tape your kid when they talk to them in school and turn over evidence to the police without your knowledge.  So train you children to say to the social workers, counselors and psychologists from the school not to talk to them. "I don't want to talk:" should be the mantra to keep you and your children safe.

We as responsible parents need to know the exact rules that the social services go by and it should be published in Hebrew, English, Arabic and Russian for everyone to know and understand how and why the public social workers can and can not take children away from their parents.

 The law needs to be changed, so that parents are notified first of questionable behavior and language of children in the school and not turned over first to the police.  If there is a problem in school the parents are the first place to take care of the problem.  The police should be used as a last resort when all other intervention has failed.  The people who are in the best position to know when all intervention has failed is not the school but the parents.  Parents are the ultimate authority in dealing with their children and should be treated with the respect that is accorded to them in Jewish law.


Please take this advice in this blog post seriously!  It could happen to you!

Rachael Alice
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Thursday, January 2, 2014

Good Morning Jerusalem

I took this picture during my early morning walk in the neighborhood.  The sun is trying to come out and melt all the rest of the snow!  Yes, there are still places where you can see the dirty snow on the sidewalk, that has not yet melted.  I am still wearing boots because sometimes you step into a puddle that you didn't know was there.

There is a rumor that there will be another snow storm on the way, but I don't believe it! Today is the Jewish Rosh Hodesh, of the month of Shvat, so in two weeks we will have Tu Bshvat, the New Year of the Trees, which is the beginning of the beginning of spring.

Rachael Alice
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New Mandolin for Sale! !מנגלוינה למכירה

Mandolin is a very beautiful sounding instrument.  It has a pair of strings tuned to G  D  A  E  similiar to the violin.  We use a pick to p...